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Izingane eziningi sezimi ngomumo endaweni ethile phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 nezingama-36. Leyo yimpendulo eqotho yokuthi ungaqala nini ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe, futhi ihlanganisa uhla olubanzi, olunempilo. I-American Academy of Pediatrics iphakamisa ukwethula ibhodwe cishe izinyanga eziyi-18, bese ubheka izimpawu zokulungela ezicacile, ezivame ukukhombisa phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 nezingama-30. Ezinye izingane ziya ekuqeqesheni amabhodwe eduze kosuku lwazo lokuzalwa lwesibili. Abanye badinga isikhathi esengeziwe, futhi lokho kuvamile futhi. Ungase ukhathazeke ngokuqala ngaphambi kwesikhathi noma sekwephuze kakhulu. Zama ukungagcizeleli. Indlela eholwa yingane isebenza kahle, futhi izingane eziningi ziyakwazi ukomisa emini phakathi kweminyaka emi-2 nengu-3.
Izingane eziningi zilungele ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 nezingama-36. Nokho, izimpawu zokuthi ingane isilungile zibalulekile kuneminyaka yazo.
Qaphela izimpawu ezibonakalayo, njenge-a i-diaper eyomile amahora amabili. Futhi bheka amakhono emoto, njengokudonsela amabhulukwe phansi.
Izimpawu zokucabanga nokuzizwa zihlanganisa ukulandela izinkombandlela ezilula nokubonisa isithakazelo endlini yokugezela.
Zilungiselele ngebhodwe elilingana nengane yakho, izingubo okulula ukuzikhumula, futhi uzilolonge ngaphandle kwengcindezi ukuze uyisize ikhululeke.
Uma ingane yakho ilwa nakho noma ibonakala ingenasithakazelo, yima bese uzama futhi kamuva; ukubekezela kuyisihluthulelo.
Iningi lezingane likhombisa izimpawu zokulungela phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 nezingama-36. Leyo yimpendulo emfushane yokuthi kufanele qala ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe . Nokho ikhalenda lilodwa elikutshela okuncane kakhulu. Ukulungela kubaluleke kakhulu kuneminyaka, futhi lowo mbono kufanele uqondise indlela yakho yonke. Uhla olunempilo lubanzi. Ungaqala ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe ngokuzethemba uma izimpawu zilandelana.
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukulungela ibhodwe akuveli ngosuku olulodwa lokuzalwa. Ukulungela ukuthuthuka kukhula kancane kusukela ekulawuleni esinyeni, ekuvuthweni kwesistimu yezinzwa, ukwazi umzimba, amakhono emoto, ukuxhumana, nokulawulwa kwemizwelo. Izingane ezimbili ezilingana ngeminyaka zingahluka ekucubunguleni izinzwa, isimo sengqondo, kanye nokuqwashisa umzimba. Umntwana omncane oyedwa ulungele ukuqeqeshelwa ibhodwe ezinyangeni ezingu-20. Esinye isidingo kuze kube 3. Ukusunduza kusenesikhathi kungabuyisela emuva ngokwesaba, ukugodla, kanye nokulwela amandla. Ucwaningo lusekela indlela yokusabela, esekelayo esikhundleni sokuqeqeshwa okunamandla. Buka ukulungela kumakhono nokuziphatha, hhayi ezinyangeni. Ingane elandela imiyalelo elula yezinyathelo ezimbili futhi yehlise ibhulukwe inesiqalo sangempela sekhanda. Intshisekelo nokubambisana amalambu aluhlaza aqinile. Ingane ebonisa kokubili ngokuvamile ilungele ukuqala ukuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe.
Ucwaningo lukhomba iwindi elihle lezinyanga ezingaba ngu-18 kuya kwezingu-30. Izingane eziningi zikhombisa izimpawu zazo eziqine kakhulu ezinyangeni ezingama-24 kuye kwezingama-27. Lokho akusho ukuthi yonke ingane kufanele iqeqeshe ngeminyaka emi-2. Cabanga ngeminyaka yobudala ihlanganiswe nokulungela ukukhula. Ingane yakho ingase isilungele ukuqala inqubo yokuqeqeshwa kwendlu yangasese kusenesikhathi noma kamuva. Buka isikhathi esifanele sokuqala ukuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe ngokubheka amakhono, hhayi usuku. Zibuze ukuthi kufanele uqale nini ukuqeqeshwa ebhodweni, bese uhlola ukuthi ingane yakho ingubani isilungele ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe empilweni yansuku zonke. I-diaper eyomile ngemva kokulala kanye nesithakazelo sangempela endlini yokugezela ikutshela ngaphezu kwanoma yiliphi ishadi. Ezinye izingane ziqeqesha emasontweni ambalwa. Abanye bathatha izinyanga ezimbalwa. Zombili izindlela zijwayelekile. Themba umjikelezo wesibili wezimpawu uma zivela.
Abazali bavame ukubuza ukuthi iyiphi iminyaka yokuqala ukuqeqeshwa kwamanzi, futhi impendulo eqotho ihlanganisa isikhathi esibanzi. Izingane eziningi ziqala endaweni ethile phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 neminyaka emi-3. Ingane ngayinye ikhula ngejubane layo, ngakho ayikho inyanga eyodwa elingana wonke umuntu. Umbuzo wokuthi ungaqala nini ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe uvela ekuvakasheni kwengane enezinyanga eziyi-18, iminyaka emi-2, engu-2½, kanye neminyaka emi-3. Lokho kuhlolwa kukunikeza ithuba elingokwemvelo lokubuza imibuzo futhi uqhathanise amanothi nodokotela wakho wezingane.
Ezinye izingane ezisacathula zibonisa izimpawu ezicacile ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwazo kwesibili. Ingane kuleli qembu ixhumana kahle nezidingo, ivuka ebuthongweni ngenabukeni elomile, bese iya endlini yokugezela. Angase asize ukususa izingubo zokugqoka, abonise ilukuluku mayelana nebhodwe, noma angathandi amanabukeni amanzi ngokwanele ukuze acele ushintsho. Angase futhi cela impahla yangaphansi njengengane yakini endala. Ukuhamba komzimba kubalulekile lapha: ukuhamba kancane kanye nekhono lokuhlala phansi nokusukuma wedwa. Ukuhlala nokuma ukuzimela nakho kubalulekile. Ingane yakho kufanele izehlise ebhodweni noma esitulweni futhi ivuke ngaphandle kosizo. Ukuqonda iziyalezo nakho kubalulekile. Ujahidada olulandela isiqondiso esifushane esinezinyathelo ezimbili, njengokudonsela ibhulukwe phansi nokuhlala, linesiqalo sangempela. Leli windi livamise ukusebenza kahle ngoba izingane ezisacathula zivame ukuba nelukuluku futhi zibambisane ngaphambi kwesigaba sokuthi 'cha!' esingazweli. Ucwaningo luyakweseka lokhu. Izingane ezaqala phakathi kwezinyanga ezingu-18 nezingu-24 zathatha izinyanga ezingu-13 kuya kwezingu-14 ukuqeqeshwa, uma kuqhathaniswa nezinyanga ezingu-10 noma ngaphansi kwalezo eziqale ngemva kwezinyanga ezingu-27. Abaqalayo abancane babengasenamathuba okuba nezingozi noma benqabe isitulo, kodwa ukuqeqeshwa kumane kuthathe isikhathi eside. Ungaqala ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe lapha ngokuzethemba uma izimpawu zilandelana.
Ngakho-ke iyiphi iminyaka engcono kakhulu yokuqala ukuqeqeshwa kwamabhodwe? Ucwaningo lukhomba ezinyangeni ezingama-27 kuya kwezingama-32 njengendawo emnandi yezingane eziningi. I Isilinganiso seminyaka yobudala yokuqala ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe e-US manje sihlala ezinyangeni ezingama-33, sisuka ezinyangeni ezingama-24 ngawo-1970. Iwindi lokuqala elivame kakhulu yizinyanga ezingama-25 kuye kwezingama-30, futhi imindeni embalwa iqala ngaphambi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 noma ngemuva kwezinyanga ezingama-42. Izingane eziningi ziqala phakathi kwezinyanga ezingu-21 nezingu-36, kodwa zingamaphesenti angu-40 kuya kwangu-60 kuphela eziqeda ngezinyanga ezingu-36. Lelo gebe likutshela okuthile okuwusizo. Izingane eziningi zisafunda sekwedlule usuku lwazo lokuzalwa lwesithathu, futhi lokho kuvamile. Ukuqala ngemva kwezinyanga ezingu-32 kungase kulethe izingozi eziningi nobunzima obuningi. Iminyaka efanele yesitimela esinezimbiza incike ezimpawini, hhayi ikhalenda. Buka ukulungela kumakhono nokuziphatha. Ukulungela ukukhula kukhula kusukela ekulawuleni esinyeni, ekuqwashiseni umzimba, nasekuxhumaneni. Isilinganiso seminyaka yobudala yokuqeqeshwa/yokulungela iphakathi kweminyaka emi-2 nengu-3, ngakho ingane yakho inendawo eningi. Cabanga ngeminyaka yokuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe njengebanga, hhayi umnqamulajuqu. Iminyaka yakamuva yokuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe akuyona inkinga. Izingane eziningi zidinga isikhathi esengeziwe sokwakha ukulawula isinye nokuqwashisa ngomzimba. Ukuqeqesha ngembiza kusebenza kahle kakhulu uma ulandela izinkomba zengane yakho. Phatha ukuqeqeshwa kwe-potty njengokubambisana, hhayi isimiso. Ukuqeqesha amabhodwe kudinga isineke nokungaguquguquki.
Ukulungela ngokomzimba kuwubufakazi obucacile bokuthi umzimba wengane yakho uthola umqondo wokusebenzisa ibhodwe. Bheka lezi zimpawu zokulungela ukuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe empilweni yansuku zonke. Avela ngamanabukeni, ekumeni, nasezenzweni ezincane zokuzimela.
Ukwelula okomile kungenye yezibonakaliso ezinokwethenjelwa kakhulu zokulungela ukuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe. Ingane ehlala yomile amahora amabili noma ngaphezulu phakathi nosuku, noma evuka yomile ngenxa yokulala isihlwathi, ihlangabezana nomthetho oqondile osetshenziswa Indlela Yokuqeqesha Ngembiza Yezinsuku Ezingu-3 ukuze yahlulele ukulungela kwasemini. Sebenzisa leli thebula njengohlu lwakho lokuhlola:
Isigaba |
Uphawu Lokulungela ngokomzimba |
Lokho Elikukhombayo |
|---|---|---|
Ukwelula omile |
Ivuka kusukela ekulalelweni kwamahora angu-1.5-2 nge-diaper eyomile noma engamanzi |
Imisipha yesinye iba namandla kanye nesimiso sezinzwa siyakhula |
Ukwelula omile |
Amahora amabili noma ngaphezulu phakathi kwezinguquko ze-diaper ngenkathi uphapheme |
Ukukhula kwamandla esinye nokulawula ukukhula |
Ukwelula omile |
Inabukeni lihlala lomile ngemva kohambo oluthile (isitolo, ipaki) |
Ukulawula isinye osekukwazi ukubikezelwa |
Ukwelula omile |
Ngokusobala amanabukeni ambalwa asetshenziswa ngosuku kunenyanga noma ezimbili ezedlule |
Ushintsho ukusuka ku-auto reflexes ukuya ekulawuleni kwangaphambi kwesikhathi |
Ukuqwashisa ngamanabukeni |
Ima isikhashana, ime inganyakazi, noma igxile phakathi nomsebenzi ngenkathi ihamba |
Ingane iyawuqaphela umuzwa wokuhamba |
Ukuqwashisa ngamanabukeni |
Icasha ngemva kwefenisha noma ekhoneni ukuze i-poop |
Uyaqonda ukuthi kwenzekani futhi ufuna ubumfihlo |
Ukuqwashisa ngamanabukeni |
Isho amagama afana nokuthi 'ngiyachama' noma 'poopoo,' noma ikhomba inabukeni |
Ihlanganisa imizwa yomzimba nomphumela |
Ukuqwashisa ngamanabukeni |
Ibonisa ukungaphatheki kahle ngenabukeni elimanzi noma elingcolile futhi icela ukushintshwa |
Uyaqonda imbangela nomphumela wokuhamba |
Lezi zimpawu ezijwayelekile zokulungela ukuqeqeshwa ebhodweni zibaluleke kakhulu kunanoma iyiphi ingqopha-mlando eyodwa. Ukulala okukodwa okomile kuyisiqalo esihle. Iphethini yokwelula okomile kanye nokuqwashisa ngenabukeni ikutshela ukuthi ukulungela kwebhodwe kwangempela kuyakha.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwezimoto kuyingxenye esebenzayo kodwa evame ukunganakwa yokulungela ukuqeqeshwa ebhodweni. Ingane yakho idinga ukuhlala ngokuphepha ebhodweni, isukume ngaphandle kosizo, futhi ihambe iye endlini yokugezela. Bheka lezi zimpawu zokulungela ukuqeqeshwa ebhodweni:
Ukunyakaza okuzinzile: ingane yakho ihamba phakathi kwamagumbi ngaphandle kokukhubeka.
Ukuhlala nokuma: ingane yakho igibela futhi yehle esihlalweni esincane noma ebhodweni iyodwa.
Amakhono okugqoka: ingane yakho idonsa ibhulukwe elinwebekayo lehle liye phezulu, ikhono elibalulekile lemisipha.
Ukugibela kanye nokusquat: ingane yakho igibela isitebhisi noma i-squats ngesikhathi sokudlala.
Ukugqoka yedwa: ingane yakho iphikelela ekugqokeni izicathulo noma ibhulukwe, ngisho noma idonsa kanzima.
Ukujoyina izinqubo: ingane yakho izama ukuxubha amazinyo noma ukugeza izandla ngaphandle kosizo.
Ukulandela izikhombisi-ndlela: ingane yakho ingalandela imiyalo elula enezinyathelo ezimbili.
Ukungalufuni usizo: ingane yakho iphusha izandla zakho lapho izimisele ngokuqeda umsebenzi iyodwa.
Ukudonsa amabhulukwe phezulu naphansi, ngisho nokungaphelele, kusekela ukuzimela. Ukugeza izandla ngosizo oluncane kwakha imikhuba enempilo. Izingane eziziqhenya ngokwenza izinto 'ngedwa' zivame ukufunda ukusebenzisa indlu yangasese ngokushesha. Ukulinda kuze kube yilapho lawa makhono emisipha ekhona kukusiza ukuba ugweme ukukhungatheka okungokomzimba okungase kuguquke kube ukumelana nemizwelo. Ukuze uthole isithombe esigcwele, bhanqa lezi zimpawu ezibonakalayo nezimpawu zokulungela ezingu-7 namathiphu ochwepheshe ahlanganiswe kuwo wonke lo mhlahlandlela, futhi uphathe ukuwina okuncane ngakunye njengenqubekelaphambili.
Umzimba wengane yakho ungalungela ngaphambi kokuba ingqondo yayo ibambe iqhaza. Izimpawu zengqondo nezomzwelo zokulungela ukuqeqeshwa ebhodweni zibaluleke kakhulu njengamanabukeni omile. Buka lezi zimpawu empilweni yansuku zonke:
Ingane yakho ilandela iziqondiso ezilula, njengokuthi 'thola izicathulo zakho uzilethe kimi'
Ingane yakho ikutshela ukuthi idinga ukuhamba, isebenzisa amagama, izimpawu, noma ukuthinta.
Ingane yakho ibonisa ilukuluku ngendlu yokugezela futhi ikulandela ungene.
Ingane yakho idonsa inabukeni emanzi noma icela ushintsho.
Ingane yakho ifuna ukwenza izinto 'ngedwa.'
Ingane yakho icasha ekhoneni ukuze ilale, ibonisa ukuqaphela ubumfihlo.
Ukuqaphela isinye esigcwele kuyikhono lakho siqu. Ochwepheshe bakubiza ngokuthi i-interoception, ngezinye izikhathi echazwa ngokuthi 'inzwa yesishiyagalombili.' Kusho ukuthi ingane yakho ingakwazi ukuzwa isignali yangaphakathi bese ixhuma esidingweni. Ukuqwashisa ngomzimba okufana nalokhu kuvame ukuvela cishe ezinyangeni eziyi-12-18. Ukuhlela nokuxazulula izinkinga kukhula ngamandla ngeminyaka emibili nangaphezulu.
Ungakha leli khono ngokudlala nokukhuluma. Buza, 'Ingabe unawo lowo muzwa wokuchama noma wokuchama?' Ingane yakho ifunda ukuqamba inzwa, ifanekisele ibhodwe, futhi yenze isu lokufika lapho. Lena inhliziyo yokulungela ukuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe. Ingane eziqondayo izincazelo zakho ingalandela yonke inqubo, kusukela ekuqapheliseni umuzwa kuye ekuceleni usizo.
Intshisekelo nokubambisana amalambu aluhlaza aqinile. Ingane ethanda ukwazi ebuka izingane zakwabo futhi efuna ukujika ibonisa izimpawu zangempela zokulungela ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe. Ingane egwema indlu yangasese noma ephikisana nenkulumo yasebhodweni ikutshela okuthile futhi. Leyo ngane idinga isikhathi esengeziwe.
Ukuzimela kubhebhezela ugqozi. Izingane eziphikelela ngokudonsa amabhulukwe phansi naphezulu zizizwa ziziqhenya futhi zinekhono. Nikeza ingane yakho imisebenzi emincane kanye nokulawula inqubo. Ingcindezi ibuyisela emuva, nokho. Ukuphoqa udaba kumema imibango yamandla kanye nezithiyo. Hlala uzolile, nikeza isiqinisekiso esimnene, futhi ugcine isimo sengqondo sikhanya. Lezi zimpawu ezingokomzwelo zokulungela ukuqeqeshwa ebhodweni ngokuvamile zibikezela impumelelo engcono kunanoma iyiphi idethi yekhalenda. Lapho ukuthakasela, ukubambisana, nokuzimela kuhambisana nezimpawu zomzimba, ukulungela kwengane yakho ibhodwe cishe kuqinile. Themba leyo nhlanganisela, futhi uvumele ukulungela ukuthuthuka kubeke ijubane.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uzwile ukuthi amantombazane aziqeqesha ngaphambi kwabafana. Idatha ibonisa umehluko omncane, hhayi umthetho. Amantombazane avame ukufinyelela iziqongo ezibalulekile ezinyangeni ezimbalwa maduze. Hlola ama-medians ngezansi:
Ikhono lokuqeqesha amabhodwe |
Amantombazane (iminyaka emaphakathi) |
Abafana (iminyaka emaphakathi) |
Umehluko |
|---|---|---|---|
Ukubonisa intshisekelo yokusebenzisa ibhodwe |
Izinyanga ezingama-24 |
Izinyanga ezingama-26 |
2 izinyanga |
Ukuhlala womile amahora ama-2 |
Izinyanga ezingama-26 |
Izinyanga ezingama-29 |
3 izinyanga |
Ekhombisa isidingo sokuya endlini yokugezela |
Izinyanga ezingama-26 |
Izinyanga ezingama-29 |
3 izinyanga |
Ukuhlala womile emini |
32.5 izinyanga |
35.0 izinyanga |
2.5 izinyanga |
Lezo zikhala zibukeka zihlelekile ephepheni. Impilo yangempela imbi. Abanye abafana babonisa isithakazelo ezinyangeni ezingu-22. Amanye amantombazane adinga kuze kube ngu-3. Ochwepheshe bezingane bagcizelela ukuthi izikhathi ezimisiwe ziyehluka kakhulu, futhi ukulungela ukukhula kwehlula ubulili ngaso sonke isikhathi. Phatha ishadi njengomhlahlandlela, hhayi ibhodi lamaphuzu.
Sekukonke, isilinganiso sobudala bokuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe eligcwele alihlukani phakathi kwabafana namantombazane, nakuba ucwaningo oludala luphakamise ukuthi amantombazane angase athuthuke kakhulu ekuvezeni isidingo sokusebenzisa ibhodwe kanye nasekulawuleni amathumbu nesinye.
Ngakho-ke lokhu kusho ukuthini ngomndeni wakho? Amantombazane angase aqale ngaphambi kwesikhathi, futhi inqubo ingase ihambe ngokushesha kuwo. Lokho akwenzi indlela eyodwa ibe ngcono. Iminyaka yobudala yengane yakho yokuqeqeshwa ngamanzi incike emakhono, isimo sengqondo, nokuqwashisa umzimba. Qaphela ingane yakho ukuze uthole izimpawu zokuthi ikulungele. Umfana owehlisa ibhulukwe ecela ibhodwe uselungile manje. Intombazane efihlayo futhi ephikisayo idinga isikhathi esengeziwe. Yeqa ukuqhathanisa nabazala nabangane beqembu lokudlala. Gxila ezikhondweni zengane yakho, gcina ukuqeqeshwa ngamanzi anengcindezi ephansi, futhi ugubhe isinyathelo esincane ngasinye.
Ukulungiselela kahle kwenza izinsuku zokuqala zibe bushelelezi. Qala ngokubuka isimiso samanje sengane yakho. Landelela amanabukeni amanzi nokuhamba kwamathumbu izinsuku ezimbalwa. Uzofunda lapho ingane yakho ngokuvamile ihamba. Bese ukhetha iviki elipholile ngaphandle kohambo, umnyakazo, futhi ungenakho umfowenu omusha. Ukuvumelana kubaluleke ngaphezu kwejubane lapha.
Setha isikhala ngaphambi kokuthi uqale. Khetha ibhodwe elilingana nengane noma isihlalo sendlu yangasese esinesitebhisi esiqinile. Vumela ingane yakho isize ukuyikhetha. Izimpahla zokugqoka ezilula ezifana namabhande anwebekayo okhalweni, izingubo ezixegayo, noma impahla yangaphansi nje . Yakha isiteshi sobhodwe esincane esinezinto zokusula, iphepha lasendlini yangasese, insipho yezandla, nobhasikidi wezincwadi. Gcina izingubo eziyisipele nezinto zokuhlanza eduze ngezingozi. Ishadi lesitika noma ibhuku lembiza yengeza ubumnandi ngaphandle kwengcindezi.
Ulimi lwenza umsebenzi omningi kulesi sigaba. Sebenzisa amagama alula, ayiqiniso. Zama u-show-and-show: vumela ingane yakho ikubuke usebenzisa indlu yokugezela bese ilandisa isinyathelo ngasinye ngokuzwakalayo. Ithi, 'Ngizwa sengathi kufanele ngihambe ebhodweni. Ngihlale phansi ngichame. Bese ngisula, ngishaye, futhi ngigeze izandla zami.' Indaba yekhasi elilodwa yesithombe sendlu yangasese, izingubo zangaphansi, nemivuzo iyasiza futhi, njengoba izingane ziqonda izithombe kangcono kunamagama odwa. Vumela ingane yakho ihlale ebhodweni igqoke ngokugcwele ngenkathi ifunda incwadi. Lokhu kwakha induduzo ngaphambi kwanoma yimuphi umzamo wangempela.
Amanabukeni namabhulukwe adonsela phezulu angenza kube lula uguquko. Amanabukeni e- Chiaus asebenza kahle ngokulala ebusuku nasebusuku, futhi Amabhulukwe e-Chiaus avumela ingane yakho ukuthi izilolonge ukudonsa izingubo phansi naphezulu phakathi nosuku. Cabanga ngawo njengamathuluzi ebhuloho, hhayi ukuhlehla. Uma uzibuza ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe, khumbula ukuthi ukulungela kukhula ngokuchayeka okuzolile. Gcina ithoni yakho ingathathi hlangothi. Yeqa izifumbathiso, amahloni, nokuthethiswa. Phatha izingozi njengento evamile, futhi uphathe izinsuku zokuqeqesha njengesikhathi sokubopha. Lowo mqondo uyakuthwala ezikhathini ezimbi.
Ngezinye izikhathi umnyakazo ohlakaniphe kakhulu uwukulinda. Izimpawu ezimbalwa ezicacile zikutshela ukuthi ubambe. Ingane yakho ingase ilwe nalo lonke uhambo lokuya endlini yokugezela. Mhlawumbe bayamemeza bebona ibhodwe. Izingozi ezivame ukwenziwa emini ngemva kwamasonto amaningi okuzivocavoca zikhomba indlela efanayo. Kanjalo nenzalo eyiziro ngemva kwezinyanga zokuzama ngobumnene. Izinguquko ezinkulu empilweni nazo zidinga ukuthi ume kancane. Ukuthutha, ingane yakini entsha, noma ukushintsha ekunakekeleni izingane kunyakazisa umhlaba wengane yakho. Linda kuze kube yilapho izinto sezilungile. Ukuqala ngaphambi kokulungela ukuthuthuka kungabuyisela emuva. Ezinye izingane zibamba ithoyilethi noma indle ukuze zigweme indlu yangasese, futhi lokho kungaholela ekuqunjweni kanye nezinkinga zomchamo.
Qhathanisa okubonayo kuleli thebula. Imatanisa amasignali okulibaziseka nezimpawu zokulungela eziwashintshayo.
Izimpawu zokubambezeleka (cabanga ukuhlehlisa ukuqeqeshwa) |
Izimpawu zokulungela (ukungabikho kuphakamisa ukuthi ume isikhashana) |
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Kusesemanabukeni ngemva kweminyaka emi-3 noma emi-4 |
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Ukwesaba okunamandla kokuhlala noma ukusebenzisa indlu yangasese |
Ikwazisa ukuthi bangene enabukeni labo |
Izingozi ezivamile emini |
Ikhombisa intshisekelo endlini yangasese |
Inzalo encane noma engekho ngemva kwezinyanga zokuzama |
Adonse ibhulukwe ehle phezulu ngosizo oluthile |
Funda ikholomu engakwesokudla njengohlu lwakho lokuhlola. Uma ingane yakho ihlala yomile isikhathi eside futhi ikutshela nge-diaper engcolile, izimpawu zokulungela zikhona. Uma becasha endlini yangasese futhi bengabonisi sithakazelo, babambe. Ukuhlehla kusebenza ngendlela efanayo. Ingane eyayithuthuka futhi inqaba ngokuzumayo idinga ukuphumula, hhayi ingcindezi.
Ukumisa isikhashana akukhona ukwehluleka. Kungumzali omuhle. Buyela emuva, gcina ibhodwe libonakala, futhi ufunde izincwadi ngalo. Zama futhi emavikini ambalwa. Imindeni eminingi iqala kabusha kabili noma kathathu ngaphambi kokuba ibambelele. Bheka izimpawu zokuthi ingane yakho isilungile, bese ulandela ukuhola kwayo.
Ingane ngayinye iyaziqeqesha ngomugqa wayo wesikhathi. Ukuqala kamuva akukona ukwehluleka. Kusho ukuthi ingane yakho idinga isikhathi esengeziwe, futhi lokho kulungile. Izingozi zizokwenzeka endleleni. Ziyingxenye evamile yokufunda, hhayi uphawu lokuthi kukhona okungahambanga kahle. Ukubekezela kuyithuluzi lakho elibaluleke kakhulu lapha. Buka izimpawu zokulungela ibhodwe esikhundleni sekhalenda. Uma ubabona, uzokwazi ukuthi ungaqala nini ukuqeqeshwa ngamabhodwe ngokuzethemba. Gubha konke ukuwina okuncane ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa kwebhodwe. Ukwelula ngakunye okomile kanye nohambo ngalunye oluphumelelayo lokuya ebhodweni lufanele ukujabula. Themba ingane yakho, themba izimpawu zokulungela, futhi ukuthathe usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi.
Cha. Iningi lezingane liyazi kahle ibhodwe selidlule usuku lwazo lokuzalwa lwesithathu. Isilinganiso seminyaka yokuqala e-US manje sihlala cishe izinyanga ezingama-33. Buka amakhono nentshisekelo yengane yakho esikhundleni sekhalenda. Ukuqala kamuva akukona ukwehluleka.
Iyahluka kakhulu. Ezinye izingane zidinga amasonto ambalwa. Abanye bathatha izinyanga ezimbalwa. Abaqalayo abancane bavame ukuthatha isikhathi eside kunezingane eziqala ngemva kwezinyanga ezingama-27. Hlala ungaguquguquki futhi unesineke. Inqubekelaphambili ayivamisile ukuhamba ngomugqa oqondile.
Zombili zingasebenza. Amabhulukwe adonsela phezulu avumela ingane yakho ukuthi izilolonge ukudonsa izingubo phansi naphezulu, okwakha ukuzimela. Izingubo zangaphansi ezivamile zisiza ezinye izingane ukuba zibone ukumanzi ngokushesha. Zama indlela eyodwa isonto lonke futhi ubone ukuthi ingane yakho iphendula kanjani.
Thatha ikhefu. Ukwehla kuvamile futhi kuvamise ukuba okwesikhashana. Gcina ibhodwe libonakala, funda izincwadi mayelana nalo, bese uzama futhi emavikini ambalwa. Ingcindezi yenza ukumelana kube kubi kakhulu. Ukuphumula okuzolile kuvame ukuqala kabusha ukuqhubeka ngokushesha kunokuphusha.
Ungakwazi ukwethula ibhodwe kusenesikhathi, kodwa ukuqeqeshwa kwangempela kusebenza kangcono uma izimpawu zokulungela zivela. Ukuchayeka okuthambile, njengokuhlala ugqoke ebhodweni ngesikhathi sendaba, kwakha ukunethezeka. Ukuphoqelela inqubo ngaphambi kokuba ingane yakho ilunge ngokuvamile kubuyisela emuva.
okuqukethwe akunalutho!